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38 Days-Contemplating Married Life

4 May

Today has been a very “married” day.  This seems to be happening more and more frequently, and I LOVE it.

This morning on my way to work I was feeling a little queasy, but figured it would pass.  At the gas station I started feeling downright nauseas and then realized that I had locked my keys in my car. Score.  Fortunately, I was at QT (the greatest gas station chain ever created) and there were very nice people inside who gave me a phone book, and a very nice customer who suggested a reasonable locksmith. By reasonable I mean, they demanded our first born, but hey, it’s better than their competitors who demanded all of our eventual offspring.

While this is happening I text my mother-in-law to be to see if she knows anyone in the area.  Meanwhile, as I peruse the yellow pages my stomach decides it would rather not keep the smoothie I had for breakfast, so I nonchalantly head to the sparkling clean QT bathroom, and return to call the locksmith.  Aside from the poor lady washing her hands as I rushed in, I don’t think anyone else could tell I was sick.

Then, I text Jeremy and he immediately has several rescue options available.  One involved driving 6 hours for a spare key.  That’s true love. 🙂

Needless to say, I’m feeling terribly so I went home and Jeremy showed up soon after and made me chicken noodle soup.  We ran a few errands, but I didn’t last long, so he brought me home.  Despite feeling miserable, my body does not want to sleep, so I’m quietly typing away as my hubby-to-be rests on the couch before work. I’m just in a rather contemplative mood and enjoying just being together.

I love the simplicity of it all.

I love him.

I love that I’m going to be his wife.

Oh my!  I need to wake him up!!!

Oops!  Well, he’s up and getting ready to head to work.

This week has been crazy for us.  But it’s great because it’s leading up to an awesome couples shower!! (how do you spell that any ways?  Is it an apostrophe in reference to a shower for the couple, or is it just an s as in multiple couples who will be attending??? My inner English major periodically rears its nerdy head. Excuse me.)  We also have a meeting with a new florist (I know it’s late to meet with a florist… there will be another blog with flower details) My fabulous sister, and maid of honor, has taken care of all of our cake details, so we will do a little bit of cake testing this weekend as well.  I’m SO excited!

No big news right now, which is why the blogging has been rather infrequent.  Mostly drama with the flowers and I’ll blog about that once it’s settled. 🙂 I found a fabulously simple bouquet from one of the photographers I blog stalk. 🙂 So, in case you’re terribly curious, here is what I’m hoping the bridesmaids’ flowers will look like:

38 days until I’m Mrs. McNair.

Get ready to read about my cooking attempts, our RSVP’s, new workout options, and more.  The days are ticking by and I LOVE it!!

58 Days- Wedding Photography and Embarrassing Confessions

13 Apr

I’m just going to begin this wedding blog by kindly asking that you do not judge me.

I’m serious.

I’m about to talk about a subject that makes me feel like one of the most conceited and self absorbed people on the planet.

Jeremy and I have always sort have been the designated “photographers” in our families.  When my parents gave me my first camera in high school, I fell in love.  I love to capture my nephews catching crawdads in the creek, playing football, or jumping ramps on their BMX bikes.  I love getting family pictures on the holidays, flowers in spring, pulling over to capture old rundown buildings, and capturing the clouds as the sun streams through them.

I love pictures.=

Jeremy and I would love to eventually have our own photography/Graphic Design company. Needless to say, we wanted to get some pretty phenomenal engagement pictures.

Engagement Session #1: We found an awesome photographer at a Bridal Extravaganza last year. Jeremy loved the pictures we took with her and I liked them pretty well. We decided we wanted her to do our wedding. Soon after, she drastically changed her style and didn’t do the things she said she would.

Ouch.

Jeremy and I started scouring Craigslist.

Engagement Session #2: Some good friends of ours started their own photography business so we said we’d be their models to help build their portfolio.

They took some really great pics, but we still needed a wedding photographer.

Okay…

Engagement Session #3: After several weeks one of us found some pretty awesome newbie photojournalism grads. Cool, right? We loved their wedding photography, contacted them, and they wanted to do an engagement session with us to get to know us and build their portfolio… Eh… We already have two… Oh well, it’ll help them.  We said yes.

Oye!

Turns out the engagement pictures weren’t at all what we expected.  They really captured the day, but we also ended up looking frightening in many of the pictures. Ech! Then they took wedding pictures of good friends and we liked what they did, but the style was entirely different than the wedding we had initially seen…

Oops.

They aren’t bad, just not at all what we expected.

Recently we sat down and really considered the situation:

If pictures are the most important part of the wedding day (aside from being married) do we want to settle for good photographers who aren’t at all our style? No. Since we hadn’t signed a contract, just in case, I signed up for free engagement sessions assuming we’d never actually win.

Well, we won.

Oh dear.

We vowed not to tell anyone, essentially to avoid looking like the single vainest couple in existence.

Then the pictures ended up amazing and were exactly what I’d envisioned. We clicked so well with the photographer that she offered to do our wedding for ridiculously cheap without us asking.

*Click the pic to go to her blog*

Oh man, now what?

I was actually embarrassed to tell my mom, afraid she’d think we were being silly and vain.  Amazingly, our parents really rallied behind us, because they understand how important photography is to us. They actually encouraged the switch.

So, we broke up with our second set of photographers and have finally decided on having Jenny Linh Photography shoot our wedding.

3rd times a charm, right?

61 Days-Suspenders, Wedding Workouts, and a Realization

11 Apr

Jeremy wore suspenders to church yesterday. Have I mentioned before that I have the COOLEST fiancé that has ever existed?  It’s true.

I’m not sure if Ryan Gosling wore suspenders over his white button up in The Notebook, but he should have.  That’s what Jeremy reminded me of today, except way more handsome.

I’m so excited for Jeremy and the groomsmen to sport their suspenders at the wedding!!!

Did I mention that renting suspenders from Men’s Wearhouse is free? Free! Awesome!

I know I said I’d write about my new workout buddy on Friday, but I just didn’t set time aside for that.  Sorry!

I need to make a confession: I’ve been getting bored with P-90X.

I’m just so used to changing things around and running more than anything else that working out in my bedroom or living room to the same 10 videos week-in and week-out has bored me.  So, I decided I would find someone to run with.  Since one set of neighbors scream at each other in the backyard and the other set is well… special… I don’t think I’ll ask either of those ladies to run, but I NEED to work out.

I am leash training Jeremy’s and my Australian Shepherd who doesn’t get enough exercise as it is… His big problem is tugging and if we’re running that problem should no longer exist. Good idea, right?  I’ll let you decide.

First 3 minutes: Lincoln runs into the road, zig zags in front of me and almost trips me 4 times.

3-6 minutes: We run north on the sidewalk & Lincoln tries to chase cars going south.

6-9 minutes: Lincoln clotheslines himself, sideways, on a stop sign.  Since he didn’t even yelp, I laughed, pretty hard.

9-12 minutes: Lincoln tries to Hoover vacuum leaves into his mouth as we run.

12-15 minutes: A tree is trapped between Lincoln and me by the leash and abruptly brings us to a halt.  Time to walk.

Next day: I try to walk Lincoln to the mailbox and he tries to run. Leash training ruined. *Head in palm*

Oh well, he’s cute, right?

On another note, today I had a humbling realization.  I believe I’m pretty blessed: I live in a free country, a have a phenomenal (suspender wearing) fiancé, a loving family, a college degree, a home, health, and most of life’s basic conveniences.

I’m pretty blessed.

Today I thought for the first time I realize that lacking something bodily or mentally is not a curse, and it’s not something evil God has done. Sight, use of my limbs, and being disease free are blessings.

We live in a country of people who feel pretty entitled to life’s comforts.  Who decided that we deserved these things?  Who decided that lacking in any area was a wrong to us?

If I see a child who is born blind I’m devastated for them and wonder, why?  Shouldn’t my thought instead be: How blessed I am to have this extra gift?

I need to treasure what I have and never grumble if there is a “lack” I never earned it or deserved it in the first place.  All the good that I have is a gift.

This certainly brightens my perspective on life.

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News Flash: We still need to figure out music and the wedding cake!  GAH!

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Suspender Photo Credits:

Top left and bottom right: http://www.mywedding.com/blog/real-couples/real-weddings/cassandra-joshuas-farm-wedding-from-forget-me-knot-weddings/

Top Right: http://onadaphotography.net/blog/wedding-sarah-tim/

Bottom Left: http://greenweddingshoes.com/real-wedding-andrea-wes-san-diego-wedding/

Center: http://weheartit.com/tag/groomsmen

67 Days-Yet Another Potentially Deadly Wedding Escapade

5 Apr

Don’t expect any cute fuzzies today. 

If you have been reading along, Jeremy and I have already had a pretty crazy encounter with a boiling hot metal ring and a mall fire. Today I faced another potentially deadly nemesis and didn’t recognize the full magnitude of my danger until the deed was one.

This morning after I was licking every single envelope seal for our wedding invitations I realized… Maybe that was a bad idea.

I have three nephews who are, well, boys. They love bugs, dirt, football, and put absolutely everything in their mouths as children.  I cannot tell you how many times I’ve said:

 “Don’t put that in your mouth”

“Spit that out”

“Do you have any idea how dirty that is?”

“Do not eat that off the floor!”

“The five second rule is not a real rule!”

All of the reprimands came rushing back as I licked envelope, after envelope, after envelope.  I was on a roll and was, quite honestly, too lazy to go get a damp sponge and a bit worried that I would drown the invitations we’d worked so hard on. While I’m sure soggy invitations would be a topic of conversation, it’s not the kind of topic I would aspire to be the central figure of.  As I licked, thoughts trickled in.

“What exactly does this adhesive consist of?”

“How many creatures have walked across this and left their nastiness behind?”

Still I licked.            

“How harmful is this in mass quantities?”

“Should I take antibiotics or something just in case?”

By the time I finished I was so pleased that I ignored the consequences.  Out of curiosity and, admittedly, a bit of fear, I looked up possible negative side effects… Oye

Anthrax

40 Calories Gained (which is not okay because I didn’t do P90X this morning! 🙂 )

Paper Cuts

“Roach Jelly”

Malpractice where mop water was used to dilute adhesive

Cockroach eggs in small cuts in my tongue

To rub it in, e-how provided me with this lovely visual:

Gag.

While some of these side effects are ridiculous, others are too realistic to completely ignore, like anthrax.  Just kidding! I’m more worried about baby roaches inside of me. I suppose I should have listened to my own advice on this one.  Lord Jesus, please don’t let me get sick!

Advice: If you don’t have 72 hours to completely redo your invitations, buy envelope seals or envelope moisteners. While I’m sure I don’t have anthrax, this morning’s activities were probably not my brightest.

On the Bright Side: The invitations are lovely and in the mail!!!!!!!  Because of the small venue size, were only able to invite family and a few close friends, but we’re super excited for each of those people to attend! Plus,  it’s finally close!!!! YAAAYYYY!

P.S. Ironically enough, my blog was rather nasty today while Jeremy’s was quite sweet (in his witty/comical way).

68 Days-New Invitations, New Tuxes, and Being Too Sentimental

4 Apr

On Saturday we managed to accomplish a ridiculous amount, I worked, and we went to my girlfriend’s out-of-town wedding (which was stunning) all before the wedding planning began.

Remember our invitations?

Our wedding colors were entirely unheard of 14 months ago so finding them on anything was rather exciting. The fact that the invitations looked more like something that should say “Come Celebrate Bobby’s Fifth Birthday at the Howbowkentown Carnival” didn’t seem to cross our minds.

Plus, they came on cheap cardstock. Cardstock!!!

Classy.

To add some pizzazz Jeremy designed cards with our wedding website to match the invitations. At Fed-Ex we discovered this purchase might be a little more than we were hoping for, that our printed sample came out a gillion shades darker than the invitations, plus they were printed on better quality paper than the invitations. Joy.

At this point I am working very hard to take even breaths to avoid hyperventilation or a panic attack.

In the midst of our frustration the truth came out:

One of us hinted at not loving the invitations,

I mentioned the cheap paper they were printed on,

Jeremy teased about the childish design,

and I finally said I was embarrassed to send them out.

That did it for him; Jeremy decided we needed to go to Target to look at nice paper and said he would design invitations. The man is paid to produce graphic design work for other people, why on earth did he not design our invitations in the first place? Why were we so sentimental about those stupid Etsy invitations?????

At Target we found affordable, classy, invitation sets. Even better, the money we were going to spend on business cards and stamps for the other invitations was almost exactly the same as what we’d spend on the new ones. Excellent.

Next, we went to a new Men’s Wearhouse and Jeremy let them know we had sort of been coerced into ordering all of the bells and whistles at another Men’s Wearhouse and were hoping for a better experience. Excellent approach.

The lady was immediately ready to prove how much better their Men’s Wearhouse was and ended up putting together a package for our groomsmen for under $80! That’s HALF of what we were originally going to spend.

Sunday afternoon we explored Michael’s to find ribbon to add color to our new invitations. Michael’s is AMAZING. They have TONS of ultra-affordable wedding items.

Why did no one tell us about these stores??

Along with ribbon we found red wax to make monogrammed seals. Unfortunately, wax seals are not easy to produce.

Something tells me that drops of red wax on white paper and incomplete seals are not going to fit the classy look we hoped for! Plan B: wrap ribbon around to add a subtle burst of color.

Before evening church I cut ribbon, failed at making seals, and Jeremy worked on putting together the designs for our invitations. He’s the best. We only solidly decided on 2 songs. Haha You may be hearing about that to-do in a future post.

After our evening service I spent FOREVER wrapping ribbons around each invitation sleeve. If you don’t know me well, I sleep at night so staying up is a struggle.  To my delight, I woke up LONG before daylight to hail I thought was going to shatter my window! Special.

On the bright side:

I spent a ton of time with the love of my life. 

Jeremy saved the day. He comforted me and took over when I was stressed and emotional. 🙂

We have elegant invitations now!

Advice: Don’t spend hundreds on invitations: go to Target, Michael’s, or Hobby Lobby first!

86 Days: Conflicts, Hair, and UPS

17 Mar

The venue where Jeremy and I will be married recently informed us that there would be another wedding happening on the premises at the SAME time as ours. Special. 

What do you say to that?

Uh, no this is MY wedding day not theirs?  

Basically what this means is there will be less parking, fewer guest rooms, and smaller windows of opportunity for picture taking.  On top of another wedding the same day, at the same venue, at the same time, the annual biker rally will be in full force. Looks like we’ll be trying to find hotel rooms on the outskirts of town because our venue booked quickly.  Because God is good and gracious there were a few rooms available so that the bridesmaids and I will be able to be there in the morning to get ready.  We’ll be married at 10am so we don’t exactly have all the time in the world to prep.

As I mentioned in a past blog, I’ve yet to decide what to do with my hair.  I thought of all manner of options:

I was non-chalantly talking over all of the ideas with Jeremy when he told me he liked me just as I was and didn’t want me to look like an entirely different person on our wedding day.  Translation: Please don’t do a crazy hair-do.  I had spent all of this time fussing over making myself as elegant as possible which meant, to me, as different as possible.  But HELLO, Jeremy didn’t fall in love with a big bun and froofy flowers, he fell in love with the straight-blonde-haired-average-Jane.  I’m going to embrace that, why wouldn’t I?  He’s going to look just like the man I fell in love with, so I should look just like the woman he fell in love with! 🙂

Now the questions become how do I “spice-up” my everyday look without overdoing it and who on earth will come to do my hair at 6:30am?

Remember that package that ended up in Timbuktu?  Well, it finally came to the right town and twice they’ve tried to drop it off around 1pm… Well I’m at work at 1pm.  UPS doesn’t care. If they try to drop it off the 3rd time unsuccessfully they will ship it BACK. BACK??? NOOO!!! The stinkin’ package has been traveling the country since March 2nd! What do I do???

Because Jeremy is the best fiancé ever, he arranged to pick up the package from a distribution center in town. Though, this is slightly disconcerting; as far as UPS is concerned, Jeremy has NO connection to me.  Yet, somehow he persuaded them he had the authority to pick up the package… This means my neighbor could have come to my door, grabbed the UPS sticker, called customer service, and picked up my package without me ever knowing… Neat.

On the bright side, I just ordered ADORABLE address labels from Etsy that match our invitations PERFECTLY!  One set for invitations with my last name, and one set for Thank-You cards that say Jeremy and Erica McNair.  It looks WONDERFUL! 🙂  The colors match better in real life. 🙂 (Of course these all needed to be slightly edited so the world couldn’t see our parent’s names, venue address, and home address). 

A few words of advice:

1. Book hotel rooms early and make sure there are plenty of available rooms for guests.

2. Don’t over-do your hair and makeup so much that your Husband-to-be hardly recognizes you, he’s marrying you for a reason.

3. Keep tabs on your UPS packages, customer service is far too easily persuaded.

Day 89-Wedding Ready and Workout Routines

14 Mar

Less than 90 days!!! YAY!  This countdown may cause me to burst into moments of hysteria periodically as I become aware of how quickly our wedding day approaches.  In fact, I dreamed that we were married last night but instead of driving to the airport for our cruise, Jeremy wanted to stay and hang out at my parent’s house…. Awkward.

Anyhoo!  If you’ve been keeping up with the blog I have been faithfully devoted to P90X in the hopes of having a rockin’ bod come Honeymoon time. My college roommate came to town for the weekend so I needed to fit in my workout Friday because I knew we wouldn’t be running on Saturday, instead we got pedicures and went shopping.  Please don’t judge me and assume I’m some uppity city-girl with a complete disregard for budgeting; this is only the 3rd pedicure I’ve had done in my entire life and I didn’t even buy anything when we went shopping!  Plus, I have a pretty intense budget that the pedicures were factored into! 🙂 Also, we shopped at the mildly-sketchy, pot-scented, ultra-cheap, Entertainmart.  It’s fantastic! They have thousands of ultra-low priced movies!  As I was looking at various workout videos I found this:

 

BAHAHAHAHA!  I just can’t express to you how grossed I get when I see guys that are anywhere near this buff.  It’s a little bit nauseating to be entirely honest.  Don’t get my wrong, I love that Jeremy is SO much stronger than me and I love that the man is muscular, but I also like that he has a neck, can touch his elbows together, and doesn’t walk around like an ape. Even the main guy on P90X is a little much for me. 

Back to my workout routine:  Friday I had planned to do Cardio X but it was a BEAUTIFUL day and I haven’t been running in ages.  Through college I had developed a pretty consistent running schedule and worked my way up to about 6 miles.  I know that’s not a ton, but it was an accomplishment for me.  Towards the end of last year my sister and I had decided we were going to train for a ½ Marathon in January.  But I was just not feeling well and in November I was sick of being tired and weak all the time so I finally went to the Doctor. After over a thousand dollars in lab work and a small cancer scare, I discovered that I was in the end stages of Mono and the Dr. could do nothing to help.  So glad I paid you for this.  His advice, “Sleep and stop running your body can’t handle it.”

I’m sorry, WHAT

 So, I haven’t been running since November.  Friday that all changed, I figured I’d do a 30 minute run.  My neighborhood isn’t unsafe but it’s also not free of crime, so armed with my cell and some pepper spray, I set off!

DANG!  30 minutes is a LOT when you haven’t run in almost 5 months!!!   Truly, I probably only ran 25 minutes because I stopped at one of those outdoor-workout-station-things that my townhouse managers conveniently hid at the very back of one of the units.  I have to say, I felt SO much better after that run than I typically do after a P90X video.  There is something oddly gratifying about post-workout soreness. 🙂 Aside from one sketchy guy, a ridiculous teenager who shouted out his window (I’m sure hoping that I would hear his absurd remarks, then turn adoringly and notice his attempt at a beard, eco-friendly car, hear his “indie” music, and fall in love), and a paper hand with the name “Timothy” on the back, it was a pretty safe and uneventful run.

Conclusion, no exercise beats a good run.  Unfortunately, it’s now dark in the mornings (thank you time change) so I guess I’ll have to keep up with my P90X. 🙂  Honeymoon body, here I come!