Archive | June, 2011

1 Day-The Perfect Wife

11 Jun

I know, I know, I haven’t posted in like 10,000 days.

Here’s an update: We have some people who seriously love and care for us and have made us feel like a million bucks.  Our wedding venue has continually caused problems and the people here are super mean.  The place is GORGEOUS though.  The cake came to the venue tonight and well… 1/3 was smashed. haha. Fortunately, we found one really awesome person at the venue who is going to fix it, with lots of roses. WOO HOO!  More importanly, I will be a McNair in 10 hours!!

Now, down to business.

I have always imagined the perfect wife to be something like this:

Let me tell you something, I tried vacuuming in heels once, never again.

How on earth am I going to be the “perfect wife” if I don’t wear heels, pearls, and wake up with my hair perfectly curled?  I know that’s a bit dramatic, but I’m sort of serious.  I tend to set pretty high expectations for myself.

If you haven’t met Jeremy, you’re missing out.  He’s the most amazing man I know.  He is so respectful, absolutely hilarious, super considerate, and crazy talented.  (That’s just a few key points)  I make that point to say, I want to be the best possible wife that I can for him.  So… how is that possible?  Have you ever read Proverbs 31, cause when I was a kid I read that and basically decided I would fail at being a wife.

Recently, as I was praying over those verses I realized that this ideal was actually attainable and an excellent guideline.

The Woman Who Fears the LORD

10 An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.

This is exactly what I want to be, unfortunately, I’m far from perfect, so how do I get there? 
11The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.

I think this is something our society sort of scoffs at.  But I don’t want to mock Jeremy around other people, I don’t want to complain about him to my girlfriends.  I want to give him every reason to trust me. 
13She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

Granted, I’m probably not going to travel much farther than our local Target or an occasional health food store for our groceries, but that’s not really the point. Instead, it’s about a woman who is willing to work hard and seek out to the best for her family. It highlights the beauty of a woman who treats everyone equally and puts others first, even if it means inconveniencing herself and waking up early. 
17She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.

A good wife cares for her body, is wise with her money, and uses it in a way that will produce a fruitful return. 
19She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
22She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.

Her husband is well respected among other men. This is key.  A man has got to be doubly respected at home.  
24She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

The previous 4 verses explain how a wife not only does well for herself, in her kindness, wisdom, talent, and hard work, she brings respect to her husband.  What man wouldn’t be proud of a wife like this???
28Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

Here’s my final take.  Look at the characteristics that drive this woman.  No, you probably won’t buy a vineyard and plant it, and you may not know what a distaff is, but you can match the characteristics of this Godly woman and bring respect and honor to yourself, your husband, your children, and your God.

I don’t have to wear heels and pearls when I vacuum and scrub the toilets, but I owe it to myself and to my amazing husband-to-be to do all I can to bring honor and respect to our family.  These verses are the absolute best formula for that.  I know I won’t do it perfectly, but now I have a guideline.

In 10 short hours I marry the man of my dreams and I pray that through the rest of our lives we shine Christ’s light and are unashamed to tell of how wonderfully he blesses us.