96-Am I becoming one of them?

7 Mar

Wow, have I actually become “One of them”?  By them I mean those hopeful brides sans an engagement ring, brides with a rock, and married women who flock to Theknot.com to learn etiquette, popular traditions, and offer seasoned advice.  Those women who anxiously sit in front of the computer waiting for answers to their message board posts and obsessively answer the questions of other worried brides. Those women who couldn’t get enough girly updates to their email before marriage that they had to  begin the same compulsive searching, asking, and answering on The Nest and The Bump.

There you have it the Webster’s Dictionary For Brides approved definition of: Them. 

I’m really embarrassed about this… but I feel that it’s important to admit I am becoming one of them!!!!!

I began to become concerned when I made a post on TheKnot community boards hoping to gather wisdom from those brides who are maybe a bit more concerned with etiqutte than I am.

See, I’m not that girl who had her wedding planned from age 8.  I don’t care what my bridesmaid’s shoes look like and I still don’t know what to do with my hair.

In fact most of the decisions I’ve made have resulted from long conversations similar to this:

Erica: So Baby, what should we do for wedding colors?

Jeremy: Yellow and Grey?

Erica: EEWWW!  No, I hate yellow!  What about teal and purple?

Jeremy: Uh, no. I really don’t like that. Yellow and blue?

Erica: Please, not yellow.  What about purple and light green?

Jeremy: You know, I like that.

Erica: Really?

Jeremy: No, nevermind. I hate it.

Erica: Huh? What??

*Cue laughter*

This back and forth banter continued for at least an hour. This is how Jeremy and I wedding plan.

Needless to say, I felt the advice of someone a bit more detail oriented and Wedding OCD could help me decide whether or not to purchase a wedding band. 

So I posted the above question and ninety people replied to the quiz.  I thought maybe, MAYBE, I’d get lucky with four or five responses.  HOLY COW!  Some of these women have made 15844 posts. WHAT? What do you do with your time? 

Here I stand judging and must check myself…

  1. I get super excited when an email notifies me that someone else has replied to my post
  2. I willingly joined the Knot community
  3. I am actually listening to these stranger’s advice
  4. I have a Wedding Countdown blog
  5. I may or may not have joined the knot in January of 2009… A YEAR before I was actually engaged

So now you know my deep dark secrets. I may not be one of them yet, but if there were twelve steps to becoming one of those women, I’m sure I’d at least be on the third step.

6 Responses to “96-Am I becoming one of them?”

  1. Camille March 7, 2011 at 9:04 PM #

    Can I just tell you, as a friend and not a stranger (haha), that I had the EXACT same dilemma as you with wedding bands, and I decided not to get one. And you know what? I’ve been married to Ben for almost a year now and no one has commented on my lack of a wedding band. I don’t think it really bothers anyone! And it doesn’t bother me either. Ben simply gave me my engagement ring again on the wedding day.

    I think that a long time ago, there was probably only one ring given, and somehow it morphed into two when it became tradition to propose with a ring. That’s just my theory to justify my madness. 🙂

    • tryingonjoyforsize March 8, 2011 at 9:05 AM #

      I appreciate the non-stranger advice! As far as tradition, you’re probably completely correct! All these crazy wedding traditions… I intend to break a few and I hope I don’t terrify our guests. 🙂

  2. Susan Elaine March 7, 2011 at 11:51 PM #

    So what did the majority of the women say? To Band or not? Did you reply to all 90? If so, Erica, what are you doing with your time?

    • tryingonjoyforsize March 8, 2011 at 9:03 AM #

      Hahahaha! Mom, I only replied to about 3 of them. No need to rub it in, I’m already trying to cope with the fact that I seem to be on the fast track to becoming one of them.

  3. Allison Grey June 16, 2011 at 11:09 PM #

    LOL…I hope you are enjoying your wedding planning sessions. You are actually cool, guys! I am just really wonderin’ why not anything YELLOW? It’s my sister’s favorite color and I guess once she gets married, everything will be like under the sun. LOL!!! Anyways, good luck to the days ahead! 😉


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